Rules for splitting the bill with Riam

The amount guests dining out with riam are allowed to contribute to the meal*

TL;DR: If Riam invites you to come with him to a specific restaurant and at least 2 of the following: [you’re driving him to a faraway(50+mi) restaurant, giving him a place to sleep, sharing food, or he can’t book a table for one] he will insist on treating you, without expecting anything in return. Outside of those conditions(or in other noted circumstances), he will probably pay for what he ordered or an even share of the bill, whichever is higher.

Purpose: To formalize and make explicit existing guidelines in order to limit discussions with guests requesting to chip in or pay back for a meal in a way that is fair and based on past experience. This rule sets expectations for what Riam (hereafter referred to as ‘R’) considers fair and will do without any expectation/desire of being paid back/treated in return (other than being treated with basic human decency/respect, unless he does something mutually understood to not be deserving otherwise). Except where noted, this only serves to convey R’s own expectations of the minimum he will insist on paying so that he feels comfortable dining out, does not set a maximum he will offer and does not impose any additional duties to pay by his guests, beyond what they ordered. Guests attempting to dispute these rules may be referred back to this page.

Rule: Starting at 100% (i.e. treating him), the maximum amount Riam will permit guests to contribute to the cost of food** drops 25%*** with each of the following contributing factors (until it reaches 0% and he will insist on treating the party, and at negative percentages, may insist on covering the cost of beverages in certain circumstances):

  1. Dining Invitation: R is the party who initiates an invitation specifically to dine out.

  2. Restaurant Request: R requests the specific restaurant, without being asked to choose or it having been suggested by the other party earlier.

  3. Seat Warmer: Correlary to #2, R’s requested restaurant requires reservations but does not permit reservations for parties of 1 at a reasonable time.

  4. Transportation: The other guests are covering all R’s transportation (e.g. driving, gas, and providing a vehicle), or are driving him over 50 miles.

  5. Accomodations: The other guests are providing R with a place to sleep. This is applicable at least once per visit. This must be used during the course of the visit, unless guests’ schedules do not allow it.

  6. Food Sharing: The party is sharing food, which is generally expected except in the case of major dietary restrictions (i.e. vegetarian), or personal preference, or the meal is for business purposes.

  7. Order Most Dishes: Correlary to #6, The party is dining a la carte and R has requested more than half the dishes being ordered, without being asked to choose.

*Applicability: These rules apply to all meals over $25 except where prohibited by law, constitute a conflict of interest, when the meal is expensable, when the guests are at least 18 years older than R, when the guest is hosting a special event, when R is known to be currently unemployed by the guests prior to the meal, as a token of gratitude for a significant level of R’s assistance (e.g. helping to move apartments), and when celebrating special occasions specific to R’s life e.g. birthday, graduation, etc.

Inverse Application: The converse of these rules (i.e. that guests are expected to contribute more than they order) is not implied by the absence of these factors and is at the discretion of the guests.

Riam’s Expected Contribution Otherwise: While these rules only dictate what R requires himself to cover and does not create an obligation on his guests, should R’s meal cost exceed his required contribution, while he may choose to offer to (and usually will if he is the one who initiated the invitation), he will not expect to pay more than his ordered share of the food (including food ordered by him for the table, but not food offered to him by others) or an equally divided proportion of the cost of the meal, whichever is higher, except where dictated by universal human norms or local laws. Attempts to socially coerce him(explicit or not) into paying more than he expects may be responded to with implicit blacklisting of further dining experiences together.

**Alcohol & Beverage Coverage: Coverage of alcoholic beverages may be included, at R’s discretion for special occasions of the guests, or if at least 5 aforementioned factors are met and costs of alcoholic beverages do not exceed 50% of the cost of food. Guests may be permitted to cover the cost of R’s or their own non-alcoholic beverages depending on how much of a conflict R is feeling like avoiding on that particular occasion.

Gratuity Coverage: To lessen guest's unease, they may also be permitted to cover the gratuity/tip, at R’s discretion.

***Proportion Substitution: The aforementioned “25%” may be substituted, as necessary with a proportional amount of the cost of what each person ordered, i.e. 50% meaning R paying for everything he himself ordered, 25% meaning half of what he ordered, 75% meaning covering what he ordered plus half of what the rest of the party ordered.

Consequence/Treating R: the only condition in which a guest may treat Riam to a meal is if all of the following applies for the guest(s)(or exceptions mentioned in [Applicability]). The guest(s):

  1. Invite R out (or R invites them more generically to “hang out” without specifying the activity and they request eating at restaurant),

  2. Pick the restaurant (or asks him to decide on a restaurant)

  3. Riam covers his own transportation, the distance to the restaurant is less than 50mi, or transportation is covered by someone other than the guests of the meal.

  4. Riam’s accomodations are not provided by the guests or he has already used his allotted 1 required contribution per stay.

  5. Food is not being shared (either due to being a tasting menu, serious dietary restrictions, or otherwise a preference by the other guests not to share food).